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9 Jul

five tips for a happy relationship.

Robbie & i have been married for over three years now and have been together for over four. while our relationship isn’t very old, i honestly don’t remember a life without him. today we both wanted to share five tips that have helped keep our relationship healthy & happy. we put our heads together and thought of some of the main reasons we are so happy being married to one another. i realize every relationship is different, but since i frequently get asked for relationship advice, so we decided to write a post together on what works for us!

i figured this was the perfect post to finally share our couple shoot from Paris, too! i’m so so excited to finally share with you the photos we took with Fede a few months ago at the Eiffel Tower and the Pont Alexandre III bridge. he’s an amazing photographer and i highly recommend him if you’re traveling to Paris and want to capture the memories. i’ll treasure these photos forever because they perfectly capture how beautiful it is to be in love in the City of Love.

as a funny backstory, we woke up at the crack of dawn to take these photos so we could have that pretty early morning light. when we arrived at the Trocadéro, which is one of the best spots to get the Eiffel Tower in the background, it was closed off because there was a massive film production set up! later that day we learned that they were filming the latest Mission Impossible movie. i was a little sad we weren’t able to shoot on the famous Trocadéro but the spring flowers made up for it!

hope you love these photos as much as i do. and now for our relationship tips:

speak kind words

Robbie and i are big believers in positive reinforcement. i believe that one of the best ways to keep a relationship stress-free is to be loose with compliments, words of encouragement, and little reminders of love. i’d say Robbie and i tell each other that we love each other probably 20+ times a day. it’s not forced or insincere at all, it’s just something that we naturally do. whether it’s when we sit down to eat together, when we take a minute to hug and kiss while running around on a busy day, or simply just when one person enters the room while the other is working, we’ve made it a habit to remind the other person that we love them.

other kind words like complimenting how the other person looks go a long way. pretty much every time i put on an outfit to go out, even if it’s just a casual look to run errands, Robbie tells me how pretty I look. to be honest, when we first got married, i had to get used to accepting compliments so frequently because Robbie is always so good at telling me how pretty i am, how much he loves me, etc. many people don’t realize it but sometimes accepting compliments is hard! it can make you feel like you’re on the spot and that you don’t know what to say. but over the last several years i’ve gotten good at accepting his compliments and making sure to make him feel just as loved.

a big important part of this tip is making a commitment not to do the opposite, which is speaking unkind words. every since we first started dating, Robbie and i have had a rule that we’ve never broken: we never say “shut up.” we believe that is such a rude and disrespectful thing to say to the person you share your life with and it doesn’t encourage healthy communication at all. Robbie and i are far from perfect and we’ve definitely said hurtful things to each other in the heat of the moment, but we’ve always remained true to our commitment to never say shut up. it’s just something that’s not even a consideration. establishing rules like this in a relationship can be a positive thing and help you create an open & respectful atmosphere.

encourage each other’s passions

everybody knows that Robbie is all about encouraging people to live their dreams and pursue their passions. i’ve been so lucky to have his ambition and enthusiasm to push me in everything i’ve tried to do with Sassy Red Lipstick. having him as my #1 fan and helper has been such a big part of its success. we’ve spent countless hours together working on posts, taking photos, creating content, sending emails, and securing collaborations. i’ve also done my best to ensure Robbie feels supported in his writing and other creative endeavors. i was front row center for his TEDx talk earlier this year and was beaming with pride for the rest of the day after he performed it flawlessly. i’ve been to so many of his public speaking presentations that we always joke how i could recite them word for word, haha!

the point is, no matter what it is, we have made it clear to each other that we will always have one another’s back whenever it comes to chasing a dream. i’ve been to countless blogger events where the other women will say, “i could never drag my husband here, he would never come to these events with me.” i always think that’s so sad! Robbie and i always support one another as much as we can in our individual pursuits. being there for your partner when they’re doing something that’s important to them is one of the best ways you can show them how much you care. plus, what’s the fun in having success if you can’t share it with the person that you share your life with.

celebrate moments

in any relationship, you’re going to be together for the big holidays: christmas, thanksgiving, 4th of july, easter, etc. but what really makes a relationship fun is when you create your own little celebrations that exist solely in your relationship. moments like anniversaries and birthdays are the perfect time to shower your partner with love and affection. don’t dismiss these opportunities as childish or “just another day.” if you make them special, then you will both feel special. Robbie and i take birthdays very seriously and always try to make the other person feel on top of the world on their birthday. for Robbie’s 25th birthday, i planned a surprise trip to Orlando, Florida to go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. i called his work months in advance and scheduled his time off, bought all the tickets and made reservations for a place to stay, and on the night of his birthday he learned that we were taking a red eye that night to Florida for the weekend. seeing the look of excitement and complete shock on his face was priceless to me {watch the big surprise moment here}. as for my 25th birthday, Robbie put together the ultimate LA/Beverly Hills weekend that included lunch at the Beverly Hills Hotel, a trip to the Chanel store on Rodeo Drive, and a surprise photoshoot at the famous Griffith Observatory with my favorite LA photographer/friend {see full birthday photo shoot here}.

as you can see, birthdays are a big deal to us, because we love to celebrate the other person and shower them with love. taking these opportunities to remind the other person that you care for them more than anything and anyone in the world is a sure way to keep your relationship strong. as a side note, you most definitely do not have to buy lots of gifts to make someone feel loved, you just have to put in the time and the effort to make them feel special. some of my favorite little things robbie does here and there include picking me up at the airport with a single flower in hand, a surprise lipstick on National Lipstick Day, and little thoughtful notes that he secretly tucks into my luggage whenever i travel without him. it’s the sweet thoughts that count!

always say sorry

as i mentioned, Robbie and i are far from perfect and we’ve definitely gotten in some heated arguments in our relationship. the more couples we talk to, the more we realize just how common fighting is in every relationship. the key is to realize that disagreements and getting on each others’ nerves is normal, but it’s how you deal with the aftermath that matters. even in our least glamorous moments together when we are so mad that we can hardly stand being around each other, we have never let the night end without saying sorry. we don’t believe that sleeping on the couch is ever a good solution to any problem, and thus we’ve never spent a night apart after a fight. in fact, after our biggest fights is when we feel the most love, because we realize how we could never actually live without the other person. at the end of the day, no matter how mad or how hurt we felt, we always know that our relationship is what’s important. every couple fights, but it’s what they do after fighting that makes the difference. my advice? always say sorry. no matter what the issue is, if both people are willing to say sorry and put love first, you can get through anything.

keep things spicy

many couples who split up talk about how that “spark” was lost somewhere along the way. it’s often hard for them to define what that spark is and how it was lost but it’s obvious that it’s very important in keeping a relationship going. Robbie and i are big believers that the little stuff adds up to the big stuff in a relationship. little things like saying “i love you” and doing the dishes for the other person are the glue that keeps the whole relationship afloat. when couples lose that “spark”, that passion and desire for one another, it’s likely because they got caught up in the stressful routines of every day life and forgot to keep doing the little things. when Robbie helps me with a project when i’m feeling completely overwhelmed and on the verge of tears, i feel so attracted to him. whenever i get dressed up for a date night or event we’re attending together, Robbie always tells me how lucky he feels to be married to me. these are the little things that keep the passion in any relationship burning. it’s impossible to feel disinterested in your partner when they are constantly doing thoughtful things for you. of course being intimate with your partner and communicating about what you want is a key part of any relationship, but there’s so much behind the scenes that leads up to that. make your partner their favorite meal, give them an unexpected compliment, kiss them for no reason, etc. all of these little things will definitely keep the spark alive and keep you both coming back for more.

floral formal dress {solid version here}
Manolo Blahnik pink heels
drop crystal earrings
Patina lipstick

robbie’s blush suit jacket {on sale!}
blush suit pants {on sale!}
collarless button-down
Cole Haan dress shoes

photos by Federico Guendel

  • Lauren

    Beautiful pictures and great tips!! The “little things” definitely do add up and make for a lasting relationship.
    I also saw your Instagram Live tonight and it was great. You two are so inspiring! I actually moved to the Bay Area around the same time as y’all!
    xo Lauren

    July 9, 2017 at 9:35 pm Reply
  • Linnea Thomas

    These pictures are perfect!??? I even got a little teary eyed reading the post. I definitely agree on everything. My boyfriend and I of six and a half years are planning on getting married in September and I am sure these tips will come in handy! I know marriage will be hard sometimes but mostly rewarding!? Thank you for yours and Robbie’s example of a great marriage.?

    July 9, 2017 at 10:01 pm Reply
  • Emma Thomson

    Love this shoot! You look amazing. Also you make such great points, particularly ‘always say sorry’, I definitely think that’s key in a relationship. I don’t think you should ever go to bed angry or upset with your partner; it seems like the two of you have it all figured out. Such a great example of a good relationship.

    Emma x

    July 10, 2017 at 5:25 am Reply
  • Nataly

    Great tips and beautiful photos dear!

    July 10, 2017 at 7:59 am Reply
  • Kate

    Y’all are so cute! These pictures are stunning, Sarah! And love your tips, all so important to a happy, loving relationship. Love that you shared these!

    July 10, 2017 at 8:01 am Reply
  • January Hart

    You two are THE cutest things together!! Great advice and such a Gorgeous shoot!! Love how all the muted pastels came together with the outfits and nature!

    July 10, 2017 at 8:03 am Reply
  • Anna English

    This is so cute gf! I love these tips.

    July 10, 2017 at 8:04 am Reply
  • Jessica Weinberg

    I love these photos! You guys are adorable! I think these are all such great pointers on a great relationship and marriage. I think not going to bed angry is another good one. Always talk things out!
    xo Jessica

    July 10, 2017 at 8:05 am Reply
  • Maggie

    These photos are so stunning! and your tips are spot on!

    Maggie @ Polished Closets

    July 10, 2017 at 8:16 am Reply
  • Ana Duarte

    These pictures are absolutely beautiful! I totally agree that it is important to encourage each other’s passions.

    Ana |

    July 10, 2017 at 11:16 am Reply
  • Shelby Back

    Oh my gosh, y’all are precious! These photos are stunning! And I loved reading your tips. We’re coming up on 1 year of marriage, and I could not agree with these more!


    July 10, 2017 at 12:56 pm Reply
  • Lee Anne

    Such great tips! And these photos are beautiful!

    Lee Anne

    July 10, 2017 at 1:56 pm Reply
  • Nicole Cook

    I loved this post!!!! Also, Loved watching your insta LIVE. you guys are so cute and very inspiring!

    July 10, 2017 at 4:12 pm Reply
  • Melissa Damon-Moore

    I love the “speak kind words”–this is so important! Great post :)

    July 10, 2017 at 4:35 pm Reply
  • Sydney

    Just gorgeous pics. Sounds like you have a great relationship and fully understand what it takes to keep it that way. Great advice.

    July 10, 2017 at 9:15 pm Reply
  • Lauren

    This is such a beautiful post and everything is so true. I’m going to be sharing it with my boyfriend, lol! I think these points are all SO accurate and you’ve done a beautiful job at explaining each tip. Your relationship is #goals and you are so blessed to have found your lifelong partner. You are beautiful!


    July 11, 2017 at 7:46 am Reply

    Yes I agree on keeping things spicy! Loving your tips and those fabulous pictures!!

    Sabrina | Gypsy Tan

    July 11, 2017 at 7:56 am Reply
  • Lauren

    These photos are absolutely beautiful! You two are the cutest. I love the part about keeping things spicy by doing nice little things for each other and not getting caught up in our busy lives :)


    Lauren //

    July 11, 2017 at 8:02 am Reply
  • Annie

    These pictures are stunning! Great tips as well. Saying sorry is so important.

    July 11, 2017 at 8:05 am Reply
  • Natasha Stoneking

    YES!!! it’s so easy to get caught up in the daily craziness and forget about what is truly important… love this post Sarah!!!

    July 11, 2017 at 8:12 am Reply
  • Ashley DTKAustin

    I absolutely loved this post. It is such a great reminder to love each other for the original reasons you actually fell in love.

    July 11, 2017 at 12:01 pm Reply
  • Kelsey

    Oh I love all of these tips- they are so true!!! And these pictures are absolutely gorgeous!! xo

    July 11, 2017 at 6:44 pm Reply
  • Adiel of Rose Gold Lining

    Seriously good tips! I can definitely do better with some of these in my own relationship. Love both of your looks!

    July 11, 2017 at 9:00 pm Reply
  • Emily

    Great post Sarah! All such wise inspiring advise I love it. As always you look stunning pretty lady. Makes me want to return to Paris soon!!

    July 12, 2017 at 8:00 am Reply
  • Kelssey Layton

    Love all of these! I’ve been married for 7 years now and I can attest to how true they are!

    July 12, 2017 at 8:29 am Reply
  • Laura

    I love all of these tips. My husband and I use all of these tips daily, especially keeping the spark alive. Lots of small little things always add up to bigger things, and what your spouse remembers. I love your dress!

    July 12, 2017 at 5:50 pm Reply
  • Lili Sulastri Zainal Abidin

    Beautiful photos and I even follow Fede’s IG after reading your tips. Great tips and even after 20+ years of marriage, these pointers are handy. Just like everything else, marriage is not something to be taken for granted. One that I do find work well is doing things together. That helps a lot.
    Wishing both of you a long-lasting and happy marriage.

    Love, lili

    July 12, 2017 at 9:16 pm Reply
  • Annette

    I love all of these tips. My husband and I practice all of these on a daily basis. <3

    July 13, 2017 at 12:25 pm Reply
  • Megan

    Y’all are too adorable for words! I feel like these are the movie poster to a romantic French film!

    Megan |

    July 13, 2017 at 8:49 pm Reply
  • Angelle

    GORGEOUS, gorgeous!! Love All Of these tops!! They are all so true ❤️


    July 14, 2017 at 12:54 am Reply
  • Morgan

    Oh these photos are so breathtaking!! I can totally feel the love!

    How 2 Wear It []

    July 14, 2017 at 7:25 am Reply
  • Amanda Kruse

    These photos are so gorgeous! They really show how much ya’ll love each other!

    July 14, 2017 at 3:48 pm Reply
  • Lindsay

    First off these photos are incredible!! Hope they’re framed all through your home haha. I agree that encouraging each other’s passions is SO essential

    July 16, 2017 at 1:04 pm Reply
  • Nina

    All good tips and these photos are gorgeous! I’d also say having fun is very important as well!

    Xo, Nina
    Law of Fashion Blog

    July 16, 2017 at 6:00 pm Reply

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